Denial plays a huge part in addiction, and it is something that many addicts find difficult to overcome. The stigma attached to addiction leads to shame and embarrassment, and many people who are affected by this destructive illness will go to any length to avoid the truth.
To those who have no experience of addiction, denial might be seen as being pig-headed or stubborn, but the reality is that this is a defence mechanism employed by the brain in order to protect the individual from a harsh reality. Addicts often do not want to admit they have a problem due to being embarrassed or being afraid that doing so will mean they have to give up the chemical substance they now rely upon.
Stop Making Excuses
There are many excuses that addicts use to allow themselves to continue with their addictive behaviour. Many will have a host of reasons why they drink or take drugs, and even more reasons why it’s hard for them to quit.
Some individuals will blame others or particular circumstances, but at the end of the day, these are just excuses. Many people around the world deal with terrible events without turning to drugs or alcohol in a bid to make themselves feel better.
Stop Blaming Others
It is not uncommon for drug addicts and alcoholics to blame their parents, spouse, boss, or children for their substance abuse. They will say, for example, that if their spouse did not work away all the time, they would not need to drink to stave off the loneliness. Or they will say that their boss puts them under so much pressure that there is a need to have a drink upon getting home from work.
It is easy to blame others, but when all is said and done, it is the person reaching for alcohol or drugs to self-medicate who is doing the wrong thing. If you are a sufferer, you may not be able to change the behaviour of the other people in your life, but you do not have to drink or take drugs. You can change how you behave and how you respond to their behaviour. It is not as easy as just stopping drinking or taking drugs as you have now developed an addiction. However, you can make the decision to get help and to learn how to deal with unpleasant situations without the need for chemical substances.
Dealing with a Traumatic Experience
A traumatic experience is one of the most common causes of substance abuse. The death of a loved one, being bullied, being physically or sexually abused, or witnessing combat can all result in a person turning to alcohol or drugs for temporary relief. While those who have experienced trauma have a better excuse than most for abusing drugs or alcohol, ultimately, it is still just an excuse.
Not everyone who suffers the loss of a loved one or who has been abused will find solace at the bottom of a bottle. Many individuals learn how to deal with harrowing experiences in a way that will not result in harmful consequences for themselves and those around them. The truth is that drugs and alcohol do provide some relief, but only short term. Once the effects of these substances wear off, the problems you have will still be there. And if you continue to abuse chemical substances, you will be much more likely to develop an addiction. This means that you will not only still have the original problem to deal with, but you will now also have a devastating addiction that will threaten to take control of your life.
There are many non-drug ways to deal with trauma, with counselling and therapy proving to be very effective. Contact us here at Middlegate for more information on how we can help.