Preparing Yourself for Sober Socialising

Recovering from an alcohol addiction is very tough. Some people have spent their entire adult lives relying on alcohol, so upon the realisation that there is an issue that needs to be addressed, the affected individual may not know how he or she is going to handle a life of sobriety. Especially when everyone they know seems to spend a lot of time socialising with alcohol.

If you have been through a programme of detoxification and rehabilitation for an alcohol addiction, you might be wondering how to handle parties, business dinners and other events where alcohol will be present and at which you may have previously drank.

The smart answer would be to simply avoid any events where alcohol would be present, but the reality is that this just may not be possible; especially considering that alcohol is a legal substance that is widely encouraged in modern society.

While you may be able to avoid going to the pub at the weekend with friends, you could have no choice but to attend a close family member’s wedding or a business dinner with important clients. So what can you do to ensure you stay sober?

Think About Your Reasons for Going?

It is important that you evaluate why you are going to this event where alcohol will be present. Ask yourself if you really do need to go or if you are making excuses so that you can go. Some recovering addicts will tell themselves that they have to attend a particular business dinner, when, in fact, another colleague could easily take their place.

Some recovering alcoholics will continue to visit nightclubs on the pretence that they just love to dance, but once they get there, they inevitably find themselves sitting at the bar for most of the night. Unless you have strong reasons for attending an event that has absolutely nothing to do with drinking, then you should probably stay away.

How Do You Feel?

You need to consider your feelings towards alcohol before you attend any event where it will be present. If you are feeling nervous about being at a party or social gathering where others will be drinking, then you should probably stay away. Feeling nervous is a good feeling because it means that you still do not want to drink.

Nevertheless, if you are convinced that you will be okay and have no issues at all, then you should also be wary. It is quite common for recovering addicts to exhibit feelings of bravado about how they will handle alcohol. But once in a position where it would be easy to drink, the person in question may falter and return to his/her old ways. If you really feel as though you must attend this event, take a sober companion with you, just to be on the safe side.

Be Prepared

If you are participating in a dinner party, ensure that your hosts are aware that you will not be drinking. If they know in advance, they are likely to have non-alcoholic options for you to choose from. However, you may want to take your own drink with you, just to be sure.

Think about what you are going to say to others when they ask why you are not drinking. If you do not want to tell everyone that you are recovering from alcoholism, simply say that you have a medical condition and have been told not to drink by your doctor. Most people will not put pressure on you to drink if they hear this.

If you can serve yourself during the event, then this is the best option. Many people think they are doing non-drinkers a favour by slipping them an alcoholic drink to loosen them up. It might also be a good idea to make sure your drink is always almost full as that way others will not feel they need to buy you a drink.

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